Restraining Order Violation Concerns

Summary

Restraining orders require the restrained party to avoid contact, regardless of the other partys actions. False reporting to police is a serious issue. Your son should follow his lawyers advice and document any contact initiated by the person who obtained the order. Consulting with a local attorney can help address these concerns.

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These cops came to my house, the sheriffs department banging at our door. We weren’t home only my son was they had their guns drawn and they said that he violated a restraining order which I don’t understand that whenever the girl who got the restraining order was always in contact with him. Coming to our house inviting him here inviting him there, and then her new boyfriend lied to the cops and said we had weapons when we don’t have weapons, so Timmy that’s false information to a police officer and now my dogs. All my animals are distress. My daughter is stressed out.
I'm sorry to hear about this situation, ****. Can you please confirm where this occurred so I can provide the most accurate information? Also, was anyone arrested or charged with a crime as a result of this incident?
Yes, my son they said he violated the restraining order. I don’t understand that if the girl got the restraining order, why was she coming over here? Salem, Oregon
I'm sorry to hear about your situation. Here are some points to consider:
- Restraining orders are legal directives. The person who has the order must abide by it, regardless of the other party's actions.
- If your son is accused of violating the order, he may need legal representation.
- False reporting to a police officer could be a crime.
Your son should consult with a local attorney to discuss his options.
he has a lawyer, but there’s not dropping any of the charges at all. She got the restraining order on him, so what you’re saying is she can violate that
I'm sorry for the confusion, ****. Even if the person who got the order initiates contact, it's generally up to the person with the restraining order against them to avoid contact. Violations can bring legal consequences. It's essential your son follows his lawyer's advice.
Yeah but her new boyfriend told the officers we had weapons and we don’t have nothing and that restringing ordered that doesn’t make any sense because to me if a person goes and gets the restraining order and they’re so scared of that person then why would they be in contact with that person to me that should go both ways that doesn’t make any sense then that just as the person that got the rest can just get away with anything and I disagree with that
I understand your frustration, ****. Unfortunately, the law doesn't generally prevent the person who obtained the order from contacting the restrained party. The responsibility falls on the restrained party to avoid contact. False reporting is a serious matter, but it's up to the police to investigate these claims.
Ok
I understand your feelings, ****. As for the false weapons claim, your son's lawyer can help address it. It's crucial to document everything related to the situation, including instances of the person initiating contact despite the order. This may help in future legal proceedings.
I want to cry
I'm really sorry that you're feeling this way, but I'm unable to provide the help that you need. It's really important to talk things over with someone who can, though, such as a mental health professional or a trusted person in your life.