Filing A Custody Modification

Summary

In Maryland, courts generally require a significant change in circumstances to modify a custody agreement. Mediation and protective orders may be options to consider.

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i want to file a modification of custody
What state are you currently residing in, ****? This will help me provide the most accurate information regarding custody modification laws in your area.
maryland
What is the reason for your desire to modify the custody agreement? In Maryland, courts generally require a significant change in circumstances for a modification.
We just went to court for a custody order regarding our 13 year old son for the first time in may
What significant changes have occurred since the last custody order that might justify a modification? In Maryland, courts usually require a substantial change in circumstances to modify a custody order.
My 13 year old son was at his dads house for the first day of school so his dad bought him a bookbag and some school supplies… well yesterday after school his dad called him and told him to get all of his stuff together for him to come pick up… this man literally came here and made our son give him the clothes he wore, socks, shoes, bookbag, AND all of the folders and notebooks so I was left with a pile of papers on my counter and and an already super unorganized 8th grader staring at me ???????? so I got all the kids ready and rushed out to tj maxx and Walmart to get him a bookbag and supplies for school the next day… (he’s in middle school so the teachers send home lists throughout the first week of school which I *% planned on getting things when we found out what exactly he needed) I just do not have words for this and I am so exhausted with having to deal with his father I could scream. Do you have any advice for me?
What is the current custody agreement between you and your son's father?
he has him Thursday evening- Monday morning * weeks a month
What state are you in? This will help me provide the most accurate information regarding your custody situation.
maryland
What is the communication like between you and your son's father? It's important to maintain open and respectful communication for the sake of your child.
i try to say as little as possible.. he bosses me around and makes lots of demands… he refuses to switch weekends with me for our to be at his brothers bday party he has missed visiting with his grandparents and aunts because of him not switching weekends with me.. I only have * weekend a month currently so it extremely hard to plan everything on that one weekend I have especially being that I have other small children
Have you considered mediation or a modification of the custody agreement to address these issues?

In Maryland:
- Mediation can help resolve disputes.
- Custody modifications can be requested if circumstances change significantly.
we have done * mediations during the court process and he was mentally abusive to me everytime. Multiple court appointed mediators stated that mediation was not appropriate for us
Have you considered seeking a protective order due to the mental abuse? In Maryland, you can request one if you're a victim of abuse from a current or former spouse.
no because I do not know if the things he has done would be viewed as mental abuse to others. It gives me anxiety anytime I have to deal with him and ruins my entire day so to me it feels like mental abound but I’m just not sure… I just simply want our custody to go back to how it was for 12 years prior yo having it court ordered
Have you documented instances of this behavior? It could be helpful in court. In Maryland, mental abuse can be grounds for a protective order. The nearest court is the Maryland District Court.
can you give me examples of mental abuse? He’s famous for completely bold face lying knowing he’s lying
Mental abuse can include manipulation, constant criticism, humiliation, gaslighting (lying with intent to make the victim doubt their reality), and controlling behavior. It's important to document these instances.