Custody Agreement Violation Steps

Summary

If your ex-husband violates the right of first refusal in your custody agreement, document instances, contact the court, and consult a family law attorney. If unable to reach the court-appointed expediter, try different contact methods or reach out to the court for guidance. Mention all violations when speaking to the court administrator and have documentation ready.

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Ex-husband is refusing me my right to first refusal. He is unable to pick our daughter up from school in a premeditated situation and is saying he can have whoever he wants to pick her up without my permission. Do I go to the school and wait to see if he is in the vehicle picking her up and if not step in and take her to her father's or stay home and allow this to continue to happen and then talk to the court appointed parenting time expediter that I am unable to get a hold of?
Hello Sherry, I understand your frustration. It would be helpful to know your location as laws can vary. Typically, if your custody agreement includes the right of first refusal, your ex-husband would be legally obligated to offer you the opportunity to care for your child before arranging alternative care. It is usually best to document such instances and consult with a family law attorney or your court-appointed expediter.
Mankato, Minnesota, Blue Earth County
Hello Sherry, in Minnesota, if your custody agreement includes the right of first refusal, your ex-husband should give you the opportunity to care for your child before arranging an alternative. If he doesn't:
- Document these instances.
- Consult your court-appointed expediter or a family law attorney.
Remember, don't confront him directly at the school, this might escalate the situation.
I am unable to contact the court appointed expediter, what do I do now?
If you're unable to reach your court-appointed expediter:
- Try contacting them at different times or through different methods (email, phone, etc).
- Reach out to the court that appointed them, explain your situation.
- Consider seeking advice from a family law attorney.
Remember, keep documenting these instances.
The phone numbers for the court appointed expediter are no longer in service
That seems frustrating, Sherry. Since you're unable to reach the expediter, it might be best to contact the court that appointed them. Do you need help finding the contact details for the Blue Earth County Court in Minnesota?
The order was placed in Le Sueur County in Minnesota
In that case, I suggest contacting the Le Sueur County Court regarding your situation. They should be able to guide you on next steps or provide contact information for another expediter. Remember to have your documentation ready.
What documentations? What does that all include?
Documentation can include:
- Written records of when your ex-husband didn't offer you the right of first refusal.
- Emails or text messages related to these situations.
- Any records of your attempts to contact the court-appointed expediter.

These can provide evidence of your ex-husband's non-compliance and your efforts to resolve the issue.
This situation is only one of many violations to the parenting time agreement. When speaking to the court administrator do I mention the other violations too or wait to mention those and focus on this one
When speaking to the court administrator, it would be beneficial to mention all the violations. This will provide a comprehensive picture of the situation. Remember to have all relevant documentation in order.
When speaking to the court administrator and asking that person what my next steps should be, do I need all the dates and times of the violations? Or do I have time to gather all of it when it is time to take the next step
When speaking to the court administrator:
- It's beneficial to have dates and times of violations ready.
- If you don't have all the details, you can gather more information later.
- Always be prepared to provide as much detail as possible when discussing your case.
Thank you. I will start going through everything I have documented and consolidate it all together to have at the ready for the phone call
You're welcome, Sherry. It's important to have everything organized. If you need further legal assistance, feel free to reach out. Remember, patience and preparation are key in these situations. Good luck with your call.